Big Update

So haven't blogged in awhile. Hope everyone is doing well. Had a great Birthday. Unfortunatley, my boyfriend couldnt make it. Couldnt find a babysitter. I was pretty angry with him aboout this. I reminded him a month before and kept reminding him until he got tired of me to start asking people to babysit.

But, of course, he still waited until the LAST min to ask anyone and his sister couldnt do it.

I still had a great time. I went to a jazz lougne, to a lame club then off to place where people go after the clubs end...it was a raggae place where people "smoked" and danced. I dont "smoke" but it was different and fun....

Saving up to move is becoming very difficult. Unforunately, another car out the question. So I will have take my same old ass car with me. Im going to rent an U-haul and put the car on the back of it because I dont thik it will get there alone...

But I getting excited. Im going back to Chicago next week and to sign up for Paralegal classes to start in Sep and to confirm how much Financial Aid I will recieve. Im so exicted!!!!

Now I am more focused on saving money and preparing myself to move!

The Cat Is Out The Bag

So my sister put it upon herself to be the spokeswoman of Kristen. She went right out and told my mom that I'm moving to Chicago.

I haven't told my parents this because I was goin to sit both my parents down and tell them myself!

After she told her, my mom rushed in my room and yelled if I'm moving. I said yes and she said that I'm making a dumb choice but I'm grown!

I really don't see what the big deal is. I'm moving to be closer to the man I love, goin to school and working! What's wrong wit that!

I know none of the kids has ever moved away, but this is something she will need to deal with.

Stratch That Last One

So I thought about it. Having the B-Day party on the boat is getting expensive. I want a $100 - $150 dress, hair, nails, make-up, and feet done, new shoes and accessories, birthday cake, and not even taking about the boat ticket and drinks that night….the $$$ is getting pretty high.

I also just decided I am moving to Chicago Aug 21st….and I need to sell my car before. It really needs struds which is $650 and I really can’t afford that. And I don’t want to go on a 5hr car ride with the car jumping up and down like crazy. So I am going to try to sell my car for AT LEAST $1000 (It’s a Burgundy 1990 Buick Lasabre…put at least $2000 into it already. Only thing it needs is struds. Just got a tune-up and oil change this past weekend so if you in the Detroit area or know someone who needs a car let me know. Or if you want to drive to come and see it let me know. Her name is Beatrice!) and use that to get another car…which I have to save for. I will try to get something that’s at least a 2000 and pay between $2500 - $3000.

So Big Boat Birthday Bash “Bye Bye”. Maybe another yr because I got to get more important stuff together.

I still believe I’m going to have a great birthday. My boyfriend is still going to come down. I REALLY think it’s just going to be me and him. I want to take him to this nice Jazz Club I love. It also has some great food and great drinks and we can go back to the room and have some great you-know-what! Hahahaha

Its so funny how I went from a big birthday party to just a nice dinner for 2. I’m still excited. And blessed to see another yr!

Life Is Good

Been doing great. Working and saving money. I have now decided to move to Chicago 2nd week in Aug and I start school for Paralegal Studies on Sep 9 at Northwestern College in Chicago.

My 26th irthday will be here May 23rd and I am having a big Birthday Bash on May 22nd on the Detroit Princess boat Downtown Detroit. I am plannning on losing 30lbs by then so I can look sexier than EVER WITH A FANASTIC DRESS!!! I cant wait and the closer I get the more excited I am.

My boyfriend is comign down to celebrate with me nd FINALLY meet my parents. Its been over 3 yrs so its due time.

I am just so happy. Im happy for my life, health and strength and that God gives me the strength to face another day to be a better Child of His, a better friend, sister and daughter. Life is worth so much value and we take it for granted.

With more news, my co-worker quit last Friday. She got her check and said peace out! Its more to the story:

She came here about 8yrs ago on a work transfer from General Motors from Ohio then they laid her off after 4yrs and she found a job where I work. Her whole family is in Ohio...her mom, her boyfriend...who just proposed...her siblings. So she has planned to move...just had a lease she was stuck with and now the lease ran out and she had to be out in a week so she bounced. I am so happy for her. Not only did she leave a job she didnt even like...she went for what was in her heart. She got tired of playing the long distance game with her man and travelign back and forth to see him and her mom. She gave me inspiration for real. I cant wait to say peace out to my job! Counting down the days!

Happy 1st Birthday To My Blog

I can't believe it has been 1 yr. Seems like just yesterday I started this Blog.

It's so funny to go back and read all the Blogs I have written. To see how much I have grown and well as my WRITING SKILLS!

I love having this Blog. I love the comments I get and I really enjoy reading others blogs.

Writing brings me such pleasure and it really lets me let everything out.

Cant wait for what the next year will bring!

Paralegal Studies Update

I went to visit Northwesten College in Chicago, IL last weekend. It’s a community college. Such a small school! It was so small it shared a parking lot with McDonald’s!

But, it was a nice school. It was 1200 students. Usually 15 students per class. I met with a nice woman from the admissions department and automatically got accepted because I have a BA. Its a very short program. She wanted me to start in June and I will be done by November but I want more time to continue work to save more money so I decided to start in September. Therefore, I WILL FINALLY BE MOVING TO CHICAGO IN AUGUST!!!!

After 3yrs of being with my boyfriend, I will be with him. I’m excited. I am moving to be with him but I’m also moving because I believe there are also better career opportunities there as well. The job I have is not going anywhere and I hate it! Its time for me to move on.

Yay for me! Cant wait to start school!

New Mechanic Wanted

I have had only one car. My first car. 1990 Buick Lasabre. Had it almost 2yrs.

My sister is dating and older man who is a licensed mechanic. He is very good at his work. One big problem: He is EXTREMLY rude!

He yells. He calls me retarded. Embarrasses me in front of other male mechanics. It’s really horrible. He is also always late even when I make appointments with him.

This last time I called him 8am. Told him I was getting my car towed to his shop. Got there at 9:30 and he still wasn’t here. Called him and phone went straight to voice mail. I’m so tired of this man! Where is the professionalism? Where is my smile? I give him good service. Always here on time and I still get a horrible attitude.

Last summer I had enough. For whatever reason he called me a retard and I said “Hell naw!” I talked to some people and went to someone else. He did a great job on my car but 5months later after a heated argument with my sisters she yelled to stop calling Chris (The other mechanic) and that he doesn’t want me. I guess he told his gf who told my sister I was hitting on him! Can u believe that? Yes, we had a conversation while he worked on my car (In his driveway) so there wouldn’t be awkward silence and that’s what I got. So I closed the book on that guy too!

I feel like I can’t catch a break! I want a good mechanic because my car is so old and don’t want anyone to mess it up. I try to help the brothas out in the hood and myself as well to get a cheaper price, but at what cost? So I can be yelled at and men thinking I want them?

I decided I’m just goin to a car shop now. Even if I got to pay more, at least they will have a smile on their face which puts a smile on mine!

Pregnancy Epidemic

I am starting to get the feeling that not having a baby on your hip is not cool at all. And I rather not be in the “cool” club then!

There are so many people having babies today. There are more baby showers than wedding showers. Why is this? Why are so many young women getting pregnant? And the bigger question is why most of these “women” are young GIRLS?

And the bigger, BIGGER question…and this may be a little “vulgar”, so whoever doesn’t like “vulgarness” (Is this is a word?) read down, but why are girls letting these boys bust in them? If they don’t know about ANYTHING else, KNOW SPERM WILL GET YOU KNOCKED UP! I lost my virginity at 18yrs old. Now I am 25 and to this day NO MAN has ever busted in me. Maybe I didn’t save myself for my husband but I will save my vagina from being inflated with cum (Excuse my language) by any man!!! That will be by my husband fo sho.

Do young teen keep getting pregnant because they are not being educated? Are their parents not having “the talk” with them? Are schools not offering sex education? Do they just hear “Don’t do it” and not hear about the consequences that come after? Or do they just don’t give a flying f*ck!

These girls are getting younger and younger. My lil cousin had a baby last year. She was 14yrs old when she became pregnant. She hid her pregnancy for months until she couldn’t anymore. She was 5mths pregnant when she finally told her mother. No doctor appointments, no pre-natal vitamins. Nothing at all. Unfortunately, the baby came out with many deformities. He had a cleft lip and deformed feet and legs. He wouldn’t be able to walk. He is not even 1 yet and they had to cut off one leg because they couldn’t save it. He would probably be in a wheelchair. My mother, whom is a RN, believes it was because sometimes people DNA’s doesn’t go together and they can have deformed babies. I think it was because she never took vitamins. She never went to go see a doctor and if it was because of their DNA, maybe there was something that could have been done to treat. Maybe she didn’t know. She is young. A kid. Why in the world are these kids thinking about sex?

If they don’t know about how important doctor appointments and vitamins are, I’m sure they have no clue on STD’s, HIV and AIDS. My boyfriend and I were just discussing how AIDS is growing in African Americans between the ages of 25-45 now. This is so sad and our kids to be informed…if they have…inform them more!

Even these older couples don’t know what they are doing. I have this guy I have known since middle school. He has always wanted to have a closer relationship. And we could have gone though but it never happened, plus he was always in a relationship. Always cheating on his girlfriends. Never know him to be faithful…maybe in the beginning. Couple weeks ago he told me he has a new apartment and wants me to come over and see it. Since I have been n a relationship, I always decline offers from men to “hang out”. Let’s face it. I know what it means and it defiantly doesn’t have anything to do with watching TV. So I said no but we can still meet up and maybe go out to lunch (or the record, he STILL has gave me a date or place so now I know I was RIGHT!) and he said fine. Days go by and he tells me he got some girl knocked up and they are getting MARRIED! ARE YOU SERIOUS!!! You were just begging me to come over (Yes, he kept asking and wasn’t giving up) I told him he is a joke. He was just asking me to come over while he knew he had a girlfriend and a baby on the way! I told him he aint ready for marriage and he needs to be real with himself. Maybe it wasn’t my place but hey…he wrong, an ass and he know it. I’m sure I won’t be the last girl he cheats on his “baby momma” with.

Why aren’t we using condoms? Why aren’t we spreading this to these kids? Because you know what? We need to STOP telling them to not have sex. They are going to do what they want. We need to sit them down and educate them. Show them how to put on a condom. Show them pictures of STD’s and how they look untreated. Show the deformed babies. Have them talk to someone living with HIV/AIDS.

Something needs to change. Let’s make it happen with that 1st conversation.

Taking It To The Next Step

I have been involved with my boyfriend for 3yrs on February 3rd. It has been a great relationship. We have had our rocky times but we have gotten through it together…and lasted. Even though I live in Michigan and he is in Chicago and were see each other once or twice a month, we are still together. Through the hurt (Not too much) and tears (Sad I couldn’t see him a lot).

Now I have come to a place where I am tired of not seeing my man every day. I want to sleep, cuddle, eat and play with him just like other couples do with each other. So I have decided its time. Its time to start applying for jobs, getting interviews and moving there so I can see him everyday! I am already in my process. He has obtained a new job as well which makes it even better.

Another big step I am leaning towards is moving in with him. He still lives in the same home he grew up in. He son stays in his old room. The home is paid for so we would go half on utilizes. I will be saving so much than if I rented my own. And you know what? I’m ready! And so is he. We know this is it and we are going to get married someday. I’m so excited I finally found the one and I feel so loved by him and I’m ready to start my life with him also. It’s just a great feeling and I just wanted to share that with you guys!

I’m extra excited for our Anniversary. I thought about doing something simple...Italian dinner and then off to a jazz/blues club. I also thought about getting something sexy for the night time when we everything is over. Maybe even something real slutty from Lover's Lane. I told my co-worker and she said I was doing too much! How is that doing too much? Dont every woman do something sexy for her man every once in awhile? Maybe cause she is 40yrs old and pretty old school and dont know nothing bout that...prob havent even done anything like that either! Who knows, but Im going to do what I want!!!

Night Bloggers!

In Jesus Name We Pray

I was very saddened to hear of the devastation an earthquake caused in Haiti. I was more saddened to read crazy Twitter comments saying that they will not help.

Some of the comments I read were because of that fact that other countries don’t help the US so why should be help them?

I really think it is cruel and that those things should really be kept to one self. Because saying them out loud makes your true image come through and it’s not a pretty picture. I know everyone has their own opinion and everyone has the freedom of speaking their opinion but what is that worth saying you are not going to help cause of this and that. It’s not going to help no one.

Be the first out of your friends to help. Be the first in your family to help. Maybe you will help someone else change their minds and ideas. Do it because you really want to help. And you will defiantly be blessed.

And if not, just don’t. Stop bitching about it and move along. Cause no one wants to hear it.

I will continue to pray for our brothers and sisters in Christ that were affected by the earthquake in Haiti and I hope you all do too.

Welcome 2010

I had a great New Year's Eve!

Didn't go to the club. No party. Didnt even get really dressed up ... at all. I went over to my gurl house and we just drank and watched TV. Watched the ball drop. It was pretty fun. No drama, no fighting, just 2 bottles of wine and a gallon of Bacardi. I noticed it takes me a lot to get drunk. So gotmpretty tipsy and thats about it ... still had fun though.

I dont believe in making New Year Resolutions. Who actually keep those anyways? Never regret things you do. Just grow and try not to make the samer mistakes again.

I am hoping this year brings forth new possibilties, new opportunites and another chance to embrace new changes!

Each day I wake up God gives me another chance to be a better person, girlfriend, sister, daughter, best friend. Another day of being the best Child of God I can be! And I thank Him for that chance!

Hope you guys had a great night and have great opportunies ahead of you as well.