Maxwell Concert

Maxwell was here last night in Detroit, MI at the Joe Louis Arena! It was FAN freakin TASTIC!

Chrisette Michelle & Robin Thicke also came along for the ride and they ROCKED the house as well! I love every min...well the performing part. They started an hour late. Chrisette Michelle was the first act then we had to wait 20min for Robin to come on...but it was defiantly worth it!

In my previous blog, Can You Please Ask , I wrote about how the girl that invited me to go expected me to drive and not even ask. Well, when I got to her house, I learned that everyone that went...DID have a car! I hinted around how I didnt want to drive and one of the girls said she just drives to everything and just didnt "feel like it". Which I can understand, but then again I was the ONLY one that drank. Can you please just give the drunk that wants to have a really good time a freebie and just do it!

I really got irritated when we went to a club, paid $15 and we just stood around for 15min! I really dont understand why people go to clubs that dont drink...I thought for the dancing but they didnt do that shit either...so beats me! I wanted a drink so bad! One of the girls said just have one and if I get too drunk someone else can drive. That was my que! Went straight to the bar! So, I I got myself a Long Island and then a Rum with Coke! I was pretty tipsy and loving it! lol

I thought my small high would come down before the end of the night, but I didn't, so she did have to drive back.

Next time she asks me to go out, I will def have my guard up. You just cant trust no one. I swear.

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Aftermath Of My Nipple Rings

If you have been reading my Blogs, you would have known I have been thinking about getting my nipples pierced. On Sep. 12, I finally went and got them pierced! Therefore, it was been 4 days.

Many people have asked me, “Kristen, did it hurt when they were getting pierced?”, “Why are you doing this?” The answers are simple…HELL YES and because I wanted a small change. Here is the process:

I went to a tattoo/piercing studio called Detroit 313 Tattoos with my friend Carilyn. It was very nice inside and looked pretty clean. My piercer was a black man (For some reason I can’t remember his name at all). He was pretty cute and funny. We were the only people in there so we didn’t have to wait long. They told me I had to go with a “barbell” ring because it’s easier for new piercings and I can change after a month (I think I will wait after 3mths just to make sure its healed).

After I picked out the ring, I went in the room with Carilyn and the piercer. The room was very small and had a black chair that leaned back in the middle. There were jars of piercing supplies on the table, and sterilized clamps and needles in the sterilizing pouches and of course…latex gloves.

He put on his gloves and marked my ta ta’s with a marker. He then picked up a clamp and put it on my left nipple. He then told me this is the part most women hated most. And I know why…this damn clamp was pinching my poor nipple so freakin hard! It was VERY uncomfortable and hurt as he was trying to fit it correctly on the marks. Finally he picked up the needle and got close to the nipple with it. I then yelled “IS THIS IT!” He looked at me, laughed and said, “Yes” then he pushed it in my nipple! I yelled for dear mercy! It hurt like no other. There was no whatsoever good feeling when it came to that KNIFE going through my girls. I have heard of people passing out and thank God I didn’t. But when it was over I felt like I just was kicked in the stomach and got really hot. Lol He turned on the fan for me so I could cool down for a min while he got ready for the next. All this time my friend, Carilyn was taking pics of me with a face of SHOCK!

One down…1 to go…

He put the clamp on my right nipple. I told myself I have to really get ready for this one. I put both my hands on my hips like someone was about to charge at me and said again to him, “IS THIS IT?” He said yes and I was ready. But to my astonishment, this one hurt way more than the last! I felt like it lasted for a whole min! I have no idea what was in that nipple that wasn’t in the last one that made it hurt so much more. I remember wanting to move his hand if the pain wasn’t going to stop. But it finally did! And when it did…I was exhausted! And I was breathing hard. I laid my head back on the headrest and just chilled for a min. I was so glad it was all over. I finally looked down at my breasts…they looked so pretty! I loved it!

Then as I started moving I noticed how much PAIN I was in. The piercer has to help me into my bra. While he did so he said, “I have helped women out of bra’s…but never into a bra.” He was so cute.

So he told me I had to wash it 3 times a day with soap and water and I should be straight…come to think of it, he never told me for how long…but I guess I can Google that information. Lol And also to move the ring around because crust can build up (Ewww).

Four days later and the soreness are going down now. I don’t feel it when it rub against my bra anymore either (That sucked). The only time I really feel anything is when I am cleaning them. I saw blood only a tiny tiny bit one time when I cleaned it on one of my nipples. I am kind getting tired already of cleaning them though. 3 times is a lot…I clean in my shower in the morning and at night. Its just hard to find a time to clean mid-day because I work a 10hr day.

It does have its perks. My nipples are now very sensitive and can get hard very easily and when they do it really feels great. It feels like someone is slowly pinching them. I love it. At my job it can be extremely cold here (Even when its 74 degrees outside) and they have been getting pretty hard here at work and I can feel them getting hard from start to finish! I love it! I am just scared for the winter time when it is REALLY cold!

I do have to add that I did have to put on a bra when I am around the house and when I sleep. I have big breasts and they were hurting so bad the day and the day after I got them done, I started cuffing them with my hands while I walked around because the rubbing against my shirt was irritating them. And defiantly when I slept to keep them in one place (I have also read other Blogs about nipple piercing around the internet and noticed this is very common for us to do).

So it has been a great experience. I am glad I had a fun person to pierce my girls and made me feel at home and I am REALLY glad I didn’t pass out! I researched thoroughly via internet and friends. I know 4 other females that have them and they all said the same thing, "It hurt like hell...but it was worth it and I love them." So, why not?

Of course, I will keep all my Xanga friends informed of more of my “Nipple Healing Process”!

P.S. Any of my female Blogger’s that are thinking bout getting this done, please feel free to send me a message to ask anything and I can defiantly send you some pics of me new nipple ornaments as well!

He's Out Of My Life (Rated PG-13)

You ever sit down and talk to your girls or guy friends about past relationships and laugh. Laugh about how you could ever talk to that person because now he is such a loser and not doing anything with his life. Or because she is now the slut of the town and you can’t imagine what interest you ever saw in her? Or maybe you have just grown up so much and can’t even imagine that person was your “type”?

I was talking to my girl today and we were talking about past men we have been with and so glad we don’t even talk to them anymore…

Before I met my boyfriend I was talking to a guy. He name is Reggie (And yes, this is his REAL name!) and unfortunately he was not close to looking like Reggie Bush (Haha) but that is not why I liked (And I use this word very lightly) him.

I met him while I was in college at MSU. He was music major and that was the LOVE of his life…and I am POSITIVE it still is!

We had a class or 2 together and he got my AIM from Facebook (Damn Facebook) and started to message me. He continuously asked me out so finally I said…what the heck, lets get a free meal and get this over with (I know…kinda mean…but don’t act like you never did it). The date actually went pretty nice. He was pretty funny, attractive and had a nice smile. So we began “talking”.

Now, during this time is when I graduated from college and before I got the job I have now. So, I was basically broke as hell and looking for employment. And he knew this when we started talking. After we go on a couple of days he then begins to tell me that he wants to go out to dinner more but I declined because of the fact that I didn’t have any funds and I didn’t always want him to pay. He then tells me how I “need to contribute more to the relationship”. I told him what do you want me to do? Go rob a bank? I am unemployed and B R O K E! And then he starts to make little side remarks saying when I do get a job I am going to need to pay him back!

So, we basically stopped going out to dinner. One day he calls me and says if I have any money to go get something to eat at T.G.I.Friday’s. I say noooo. So what does he do? He goes by himself and then CALLS me from the table while he eats!!! Telling me how good the food is and how he can’t get enough of it. I told his ass to call me later!

Another time, he wants me to come back to his apartment. He lived about an hour away from me near Flint, MI. He picks me up and we are on our way. When we finally get to city (I forgot where he lives) and he is hungry. So he wants McDonald’s. He claims he doesn’t have any money on him, so he asks me if I would care if got something from the Dollar Menu for me. It really wasn’t a big deal, but then he got a big ass Big Mac meal for himself and SUPER-SIZED IT! Lol We got back to his apartment and he is SMASHING this food! I didn’t even get a damn drink to wash my shit down with! This is when the 1st thought came through this fella may not be the man for Kristen Renee’!

Maybe I could take him being so freakin cheap if he was laying down the pipe…but he wasn’t CLOOOOSE! I love to talk about sex. Nothing surprises me about it and I am pretty open to a lot of things…but he didn’t want to do anything. You know what all he wanted to do? Kiss and FINGER ME! And when I say kiss…I mean closed mouth and with your lips puckered…yes, like a freakin smooch! He told me he didn’t like the taste of another woman’s tongue. I wanted to ask him, “What are you?” What man doesn’t like a good sloppy kiss! He didn’t eat pussy. I asked him about it and he said, “Pee comes from that”. I almost fell out! And he doesn’t have sex either. This is a 25-year-old man! But then it all came clear. Before me, he only had sex 1 time which was 4yrs prior to me and the person he had it with was a virgin also and I guess somebody did something wrong during cause they never fucked after that! So maybe he was just a little inexperienced and shy…and let me tell you something else...a woman can be fingered so much! I had to fake it just so he would stop! I wasnt into it anymore after a certain point, therefore, I would get dry and I guess he being so inexperienced he didnt know (But who can't grasp that a woman is not moist anymore) and kept doing it. And I would be sore for a week cause he kept jabbing his damn finger in me so damn hard! lol FUCCCK!

He always asked me what would I do if he told me he didn’t want to have sex and I answered that doesn’t mean anything if I really liked the person and I would respect that. But he never came out and said it. I just wished he was honest because the whole situation could have been better and I defiantly wouldn’t have been talking about sex so much either. Lol

We also argued a lot. Over stupid things. He always, always, always had to have the last word on everything and that irritated me more than anything! I don't like aruging and I dont like confrontation about petty things.

I was telling my friend I cant IMAGINE how it would be if I was still with him. Well, I know I wouldn’t be. I need more and he defiantly wasn’t doing it. And I am not saying I want to be spoiled and taken out to dinner every night, but I don’t want my companion to be cheap. I am not anywhere near being cheap. If I want something I get it, if I have the money to spare. If my boyfriend needs or want something I will get something for him without hesitation. I need to know if I ever do need something I know I can go to my boyfriend and know he got my back. Nor do I need sex. But damn…is it soo good!

Another thing I believe about relationships is both individuals have to be on the same level when it comes to intimacy. Wheather the couple is both virgins or one is a freak out of this world and the other doesnt like to be touched all the time. It has to be the same. Because if it isn't, I strongly believe that is when one person starts to have "wondering eyes" and will get it else where...if you know what I mean. I know that is not the truth about every single person in the world but it's very important in a relationship. I have seen some fall apart because of that 3 letter word. Therefore, even if we stayed together it would not have been right. Yes, I can respect if he wanted to want longer...but how long? I love sex and I think it is beautiful and I am happy I am finally with someone that thinks it is has beautiful as I do. My boyfriend and I are very SATISFIED (I know this is random but do anyone remember that scene from Clueless where Dee is saying her man is satisfied even though they dont have sex...just thought of that for some reason lol) and I know he will never stray away hungry...not for that reason!

Anyways...

And I do hope he has found someone who hates all the same thing he does...I think she will be pretty hard to find, but maybe she's out there...

Any of my Blogger friends have any past relationship’s that you were sooo glad you let get away? Haha

P.S. Another time we went to a Dollar Show movie...he refused to pay. No lie. And it wasnt a big deal. That was all the chunk change my broke self had at the time...so yes I paid $2 for us.

Just Can't Win

So this week has NOT been my week.




I have a very small room. My bed basically takes up the whole room. My closet is small as hell and all my clothes can't fit so I have to put the rest in the big bags. Yeah, sometimes my room is a mess because of this and because I work so much I dont have time to pick up every damn day.



My sister came into my room a couple times and plugged up her stupid games to my TV to play...I didnt say anything about it hoping she wasnt going to come back. I came back from work Friday evening and found my room more destroyed than ever! My big blankets where on top of my make-up table and my clothes where everywhere on my bed...and her stupid games were still plugged to my damn TV. I asked my mother what happened and she said "Oh, Leah was just looking for her glasses." I asked her did she see what she did did to my room. I told her how that blanket could have spilled over all my very expensive make-up products (I love mineral make-up and use Bare Escentuals...which is NOT cheap) and thank God that didnt happen.



So while I was venting out all my frustration my mother decided to BLAME ME! She went on to say how my room was already messy and if it was clean it wouldnt have happened. I dont care if a tornado went through my room, NO ONE should be in here and if she was playing her childish racing games on my damn TV in the first place she wouldnt have "lost her glasses" in the first place!



She went on about how I need to get out her house and get my own place (This is her usual rant she goes on EVERY time she gets mad at me).



Side Note: I do want to put in here how I DO pay rent. I am not "freeloading" and pay my parents $300/mth! You should ask how much my sisters pay! Cause I know some are not even giving them any money!



I was just pissed I couldnt believe it...but then again I can. Her and my mother are tight as hell. She tells my mother everything. That's 1 reason why I dont tell her anything...the other is she also tells everyone else my business as well!



Today, I woke up and was a little bit hungry. I went into the kitchen and noticed chips and dip so I had a couple. My other sister came in and told me that wasnt mine and asked why am I eating it (She did the same thing the day before). I usually dont eat other people food. Usually people in the house, as well as myself, put their own food in pastic bags to let everyone know you should eat it. The dips didnt have that so I thought my mother bought it, which means anyone can eat it. As I put the dip back in the fridge in a huff and was about to leave the kitchen she then yelled, "And you need to stop calling Chris because he doesnt want you!" I asked "Who was Chris?" She said Chris the mechanic. (I switched mechanics because the previous man I was going to was getting really mean with me and was calling me stupid so I decided to go to someone else. My sister told me about "Chris" and he fixed my car back in July) I then asked her if she was serious. She said "Yeah, he told his baby momma (Whom she is friends with) and she told me you have been trying to get with him." I couldnt do anything bu laugh! I said I havent talked to him since he fixed my car. Then she said she she knew I would lie!



I cant stand people that lie. Even more so about me! So I then went straight to...what...my PHONE RECORDS! I got every single copy of my phone bill all the way back from April. I dont call many people. I have 300min but also MyFaves from T-Mobile so thats where most of my min go to and my mechanic defiantly isn't on my MyFaves. So as I am looking on my phone records there is NOTHING showing that I have been calling him. The last time was back in July and that was when he fixed my car.



So I went to my sister with the evidence and asked her what did his "baby momma" say? I guess Chris was telling her I called him and tried to get him to go out with my gurls and tried to get with him and he told me no and that he was already in a relationship. My sister didnt even bother to look at my phone bills so that just tells me she knew she was on some bullshit from the get-go. So I decided to call him. I told him what I heard. He claimed he was going to call me back...its bee 3hrs and he still hasn't.



I am just so freakin SICK AND TIRED and people putting my name in shit. I dont do anything but go to work, church and go see my man. I dont have many girlfriends because of this problem and somehow people still try and fuck me over. I tried to get a new mechanic because my the old man I was seeing was disrespectful and the new younger man claims I want him!



I just cant win.

Can You Please Ask?

One of my friend’s birthdays is coming up later in the month. She told me about a month ago that she really wanted to do something and would like me to help her find something to do…and to come as well of course.

I said of course I would help out. I really wanted to do something she would like because of her birthday plans did not go so well last year. What happened was she invited 5 or 6 of her friends to go out to a club with her and celebrate…and all of them bailed on her on the day we were supposed to go out…til the very last hour before we were headed out. I was the ONLY one who actually went. I even invited my co-worker to come and called her to confirm hours before we were supposed to go out…I didn’t get nothing but straight to voicemail again and again (I was really pissed at that. And she acted like nothing happened when I saw her again at work…but whatever…that’s bitches for ya). But her and I went to dinner then to a nice neighborhood bar and still had a good time…so that was good.

As many of you should know, Maxwell is on tour and he is actually going to be in my city, Detroit, September 26th. Her birthday is the 29th so of course she wanted to go! Her husband is even buying the tickets for 4 of her girls to go as well! So I thought that was very nice of him.

My friend called me this past weekend to give me more details of her birthday on Sep 26th:

5pm – Red Lobster for dinner

7:30pm – Maxwell Concert

11pm – Hit the club

So I said that’s sounds pretty fun. I asked her everyone that was going and then I asked who was driving. She said one of her friends would be spending the night at her house because she doesn’t want me to have to go all the way on the East Side of Detroit to pick her up. I asked her why cant her friend drive? She said she doesn’t have a license. I then said it doesn’t matter to me if she driving with a license…that’s her problem if she get flicked. My friend then asked, “Oh, you don’t care if she drives your car without a license?” I then asked why would she be driving my car and my friend said because she doesn’t have a license nor a car…. nor does the other girl going and I already knew my friend does have either prior to this as well.

So basically, what she was saying is: I am going to drive us everywhere that night and didn’t even bother to ask me.

Its not because I am just lazy and don’t want to drive but because of the fact that she didn’t ask and just assumed. I was there once too when I didn’t have a car. It took me until last year before I got my license. Yes, I was 24yrs old and just wasn’t ready to drive on my own…I was basically scared of semi’s but knew I had to get over it cause I was TIRED of people taking me everywhere.

My boyfriend told me maybe she thought because her husband is paying for my ticket she just assumed. I guess I can understand that as well…yes, I do appreciate her husband buying my tickets. But lets not forget…he OFFERED and I didn’t ASK. But she still should have asked. I don’t go many places but to work, home and to my other girls place so I don’t get around much (Mainly because I work too much and like to get in sleep on my days off) and defiantly don’t know how to get downtown Detroit (Which is where the concert is being held). But I guess I will Google everything and hope someone in the car know where the hell we are going…

What are my Blogger friend’s thoughts about people “assuming” you are going to do something for them?