I'm Just Not That Into You

Hey Bloggers! So, now that I have a boyfriend, I guess men just love Ms.Vanilla (LOL). I am a very faithful woman. I love my man; we have a great trustworthy relationship. Therefore, I have not and would never cheat on him. That being said, a young guy I used to talk to before my boyfriend has gotten back into contact with me via AIM (AOL Instant Messenger). He came right out and said he wants to see me. He lives about an hour away and just moved into another apartment and wants me to see it. Of course, I know how inappropriate this would be so I politely declined, but said we could, maybe, have lunch one day (Maybe meaning never). I gave my reasons on why…that I wouldn’t like my man going out with another woman and vise versa. He then said I was “tripping”…lol…couldn’t believe it. I kept the conversation and would love for my Xanga readers to read and let me know…who REALLY was tripping! And yes, I did use his REAL name and of course I am MsVanilla523. And I want you to notice how he tried to bring up why we stopped talking like that was my fault too! Here it goes

Reggie:

o ok. ill look for u. so would u come up and hang with ya boi for a bit

MsVanilla523:

I don’t think that would be appropriate for someone who is in a committed relationship. I wouldn’t want my man to be chilling with some other chick so I don’t do it ...I am sure u know where I am coming from...

Reggie:

i do

Reggie:

But trust is got to be there

MsVanilla523:

Oh it is

Reggie:

plus im in a committed relationship as well

so whats the big deal

MsVanilla523:

I rather not even put myself in that situation

Reggie:

we friends

thats it

MsVanilla523:

I know. I am not going to come to your apartment but maybe we can meet for lunch or something when u are down here

Reggie:

K

but u seem to be trippin about that. its not that deep, atleast not to me. but its cool, nevermind.

MsVanilla523:

I am not tripping on anything. I have been with my man for 2 and half yrs. I have never even been out with another man before for even "coffee". I just don’t...I never had a need to...basically because I have no male friends. He doesn’t have a need to go out with women because he doesn’t have female friends. It’s just how it is. I’m not trying to trip bout it.... that how my relationship is with my boyfriend and I respect that. It never has been an issue before, nor do I feel like making it one now. I said we could go out for lunch when u come into town. Is that not enough? lol

MsVanilla523:

I’m just confused now...u don’t eat lunch?

Reggie:

yea

i told u its cool

MsVanilla523:

Lol Alrighty then

Reggie:

u trippin

lol it aint that serious

MsVanilla523:

lol ok. I guess I am then.I am not going to explain it again

Reggie:

no need to

i understand

MsVanilla523:

Oh I WASNT GOING TO lol

Reggie:

OKAY GOOD

DUH

Thats what i said

MsVanilla523:

You are EXACTLY the same as I remember lol

MsVanilla523:

Man

Reggie:

u r too

lol

MsVanilla523:

Yeah, I still don’t deal with bullshit

Reggie:

what the hell does that mean? u sayin im bullshit. wow, lets not go there. i still dont either, thats why we aint go no further then we did when we kicked it

lol

Reggie:

but its cool

i do understand

MsVanilla523

Wow

Reggie:

u happy and im happy

MsVanilla523:

Lol

Reggie:

and i respect ur boundaries

as crazy as they seem

so

MsVanilla523:

All I said was I don’t want to basically go to your apartment and I would rather just have lunch and this is what I get

MsVanilla523:

Reggie, I am trying to be nice

Reggie:

u went there

not me

MsVanilla523:

And respectful to my boyfriend

Reggie:

i am to

MsVanilla523:

And I really don’t think you want to go there about we stopped talking cause it would hurt your feelings.

Reggie:

Ok

MsVanilla523:

I am not going to go there

And wasn’t going to bring that up

So

Reggie:

i GOTCHU on that

MsVanilla523:

I don’t think u should either

Reggie:

bring what up

MsVanilla523:

Exactly

Reggie:

what will hurt my feelings?

u musta forgot

why we stopped talking

MsVanilla523:

Nooooooooooooooope

Not at all

I remember everything like it was yesterday

Reggie:

well i remember on my end

u wanted to screw and i didnt want to go there LOL

MsVanila523:

Lol Nope. I was okay with that and I told you that

Reggie:

right......thats why u kept askin for it....lol

MsVanilla523:

Yes, it would have been a struggle, but I would have gotten over the "no sex" thing....if you were straight with me about it. You never really told me if you were even celibate! I didn’t like how you didn’t even want to ACKNOWLEDGE we were "dating". I wasn’t seeing anyone else and you wasn’t and we went out...THATS CALLED DATING....and I just didn’t agree that I had to date someone for 8 MONTHS before we got into a relationship…which you wanted to do! What is that? AND we argued too much. I never argue with anyone that I have talked to in the past...but you, therefore, I thought something want right about that. Plus, I didn’t care u didn’t want to have sex...but you didn’t even want to KISS ME…because you didn’t like the taste of another person’s tongue? WHAT? That’s weird when I can’t even kiss the guy I am dating.

Reggie:

True

MsVanilla523

So yeah, So that what I said u are exactly the same. You always wanted to have the last word and always made an argument out of anything which u just did. I just said we could go to lunch and u said I was tripping! It seems that nothing makes u happy for some reason.

So that was the whole conversation. I didn’t quite understand WHY he got so mad. Maybe he really wanted me to come over so he could FINALLY hit this…BUT I got a REAL man so he lost those privileges! I just thought this whole thing was too funny and made me realize how happy I am with my man and how I am sooo glad I am not with him.

P.S. I really don’t think he got a girlfriend…who would want to argue constantly over silly shit…NOT ME!